Another Year Has Gone By (12/19/08)
Another year has gone by
When you’ve been with someone for a while, you cease to think about all the flaws and oddball characteristics in yourself that your other half thankfully also ceases to think about. Flaws and oddities, that, when you’re in your twenties, don’t really seem like such a big deal, but which suddenly seem so magnified when you’re older and think about exposing them for someone else to lay witness to. For example, I still get a little peeved that my husband thinks the floor is a Fine Quality Shelving Unit. And his hunting! No other woman on this planet would be as understanding as I am about his need for Quality Time with the Woodland Animals. To be fair, though, I’m equally sure that he thinks after thirteen years of marriage (plus two of dating) I should understand Forest and Lynchburg traffic patterns well enough to get somewhere (anywhere?) on time. Just once would be nice.
That’s just the tip of the iceberg. I’m quite sure that although you think you know me, Duane could make you a list of arcane and eyebrow raising facts about me that only come with close, personal knowledge. In all seriousness, though, there’s something profoundly humbling about having someone so close to you still love you. Someone who knows you like to go to sleep on your back, but actually fall asleep on your side. Someone who knows you laugh while you sleep, and talk about cakes falling and snakes in the bed. Someone who sees you lose it with your kids and yourself, and is okay with that…is okay with you being you, with you being human and fallible.
So…here’s to another year (almost) gone by with my better half–who sometimes bothers to read my blog and may actually even get that I’m still head over heels for him. 😉